We often focus on the things that are wrong with us and forget about the things that are right. This article will show you how to boost your self-esteem by doing just five simple things.
Be kind to yourself
Be honest. Are you talking to yourself using kind, non-judgmental words and tones? Are you giving yourself positive feedback? Are you reminding yourself that you are uniquely made, beautiful inside and out and made to be exactly where you ARE? If not, you may need to adjust the meter and treat yourself with more genuine kindness. While this takes time it’s something you can incorporate into your everyday life with small steps that make a huge impact.
Tip: Use positive affirmations.
Write them on sticky notes and put them in places you see
throughout the day like on your bathroom mirror or nightstand and even on your phone.
Stop comparing yourself to others
No one is you and that is your superpower. It may sound cliché but it’s the absolute truth. You are a force to be reckoned with and it’s even more apparent when you’re able to step out of your own way and see how amazing you are, as you ARE.
You are on a path that is made for you and only you. You are on your own timeline. The only person you should be competing with is the person you were yesterday. And even that person can’t compare to who you are becoming.
Practice gratitude every day
Everyday when I wake up I say thank you. I could’ve had the worst night's sleep. My baby could’ve kicked me in the ribs non-stop (yes, we co-sleep, stay focused.) I could’ve been upset and stressed the day before but none of that matters because I am present and grateful for that very moment. I continue it throughout the day and make it a practice even when it feels like things are going wrong. It’s so helpful to practice gratitude because it helps you to center your thoughts and focus on what really matters. When you choose gratitude you’re choosing to let the negativity go and open your mind and spirit to the possibilities of what comes next.
Set realistic expectations for yourself and others
A lot of our disappointments in life come from expectations. We expect to be something at a specific time and place that may not align with our true purpose.
The same can be true about our views and relationships with others. Setting realistic expectations for yourself and others also allows you to set healthy boundaries. This helps to protect you as well. Allow yourself to be and grow at the pace that is right for you, not anyone else.
Take care of your health
Have you ever noticed that when you work out you feel refreshed? Tired, yes, but also full of a different kind of energy. You feel happier. You feel accomplished. You also begin to feel more confident. That is amazing for your self esteem and confidence. The same goes for healthy eating, healthy relationships, taking care of our physical and mental health, and so much more. This is essentially a form of self-care that has amazing long term benefits and you can get started doing this anywhere, at any time. Try swapping out a sugary drink for water. Try getting an extra hour of sleep. The little changes have the greatest results and your new outlook on life will thank you for it.
How do you give yourself a self-esteem boost? What tips would you give to someone else?
Re-Kenya Roberson is an author, creative consultant, mom, and a bunch of other things that you won't actually remember later. Follow her on instagram @iamrekenya